Love without Words
By: Molly O’Malley Pitman
As the mother of a child with autism, I have had the opportunity to truly appreciate the significance of communication. A simple greeting of hello, a request for a drink, or an “I want” for a favorite toy may never happen for many. In our struggle to make those connections, there have been many meltdowns, countless tears, and moments of desperation where I found myself begging him to say a single word, let alone a simple “I love you.”
It was when my children’s own relationships began to evolve that I started to see an even greater love that cannot be expressed in just three words.
When Charlotte was about three, she questioned why Donovan did not respond when she said, “I love you.” Caught off guard, I used her bond with our family dog, Makeo, as an explanation. “Makeo plays with you. He gets excited when you come home. And he even lets you cuddle with him. Makeo shows you his love.” Charlotte seemed to have a better understanding, and so did I.
We are fortunate Donovan has found his words and we have heard “I love you.” Even so, it is in the joy of sharing a life together and creating special moments that I know how deeply we are all loved.